Who are we? Small Self, Big Self or True Self?

We live in a psychologically-sophisticated age. We know we need self-esteem, self-worth, self-compassion, self-love and we need to do self-care. We know we have an ego or personality that can behave badly at times. We know we need to work on ourselves to overcome our negative character traits. We may too have an awareness of an inner essence that is more magnificent than all of this. But who actually are we? A mix of all of this? One self at one moment… and another self at a different moment? Let me try and clarify it. Read More

Hold on. Let go. Which Should We Do?

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
 Ann Landers

As we approach the end of the year, it is a perfect time for reflecting on what is working in our lives…and what is not! What to hold onto ….and what to let go of. Importantly, it is helpful to recognise the behavioural habits, attachments to situations or people or our ways of thinking that are causing us suffering. And from here, let them go.

However, letting go does not come easily to most of us. We love the phrase ‘just let it go’ but when it comes to it, we don’t seem to be able to. We prefer instead to ruminate on what’s wrong, rather than seek to change it. Why? Because we like the illusion of control. We prefer the safe and the known rather than the unknown. We cling to the status quo – even when we know, the status quo is painful. Read More

Turning Poison into Medicine: How to Move Through Challenges… and Become Happier

 

The idea of ‘turning poison into medicine’ comes from a form of Buddhism called Nichiren Buddhism. This is a sect of Japanese Buddhism based on the teachings of its founder Nichiren in the 13th century. One of the key tenets of this approach is that our suffering is not caused by our attachment to our desires, as traditional Buddhism teaches. It purports, instead, that our suffering is caused by our belief that we lack the personal power to overcome the challenges that confront us. That ultimately, we are powerless in the face of adversity. And this can lead us to states of severe anxiety and depression where we are consumed by feelings of powerlessness, worry and despair. Read More

The Five Hallmarks of Enlightened People: Some Suggestions for Their Attainment

Enlightenment is, in the end, nothing more than the natural state of being”. Adyashanti

This quote from American spiritual teacher and author Adyashanti highlights that enlightenment is an attainable state for us all. It is not something we have to seek for. In my experience though, we do need to train our mental muscles to embrace the qualities that enlightened people embody. And that means practice!

Below I have put together a list of the mental traits of enlightened masters: individuals such as Buddha, Jesus, Mohammed and living masters such as Eckhart Tolle, Mother Amma and Gangaji. In this short summary, I have given a series of suggestions on how we can do our best to work towards these hallmakrs if we want to evolve and grow towards Enlightenment through our lifetime. Read More

How To Thrive In Business Through Spiritual Intelligence

Thriving in business starts with your personal definition of thriving. For some, it is purely monetary gain, financial wealth and being perceived as a success in the world. For others, it includes definitions such as  expressing the truth of who they are through their work and all that they pursue; balancing time spent “doing” their business projects and time spent “being” in their business, allowing their creative minds to generate new ideas on the way forward; enjoying positive relationships with all of their clients, suppliers and competitors, and having a genuine desire to serve them all; feeling a sense of energy, vitality, happiness and fulfilment  from their work and running all aspects of their business being guided by the Highest and Best in them, their True Self. Read More

Dealing with Challenges

Challenges in our lives give us the opportunity always to surrender to a Higher Power and allow that Power to heal us. Throughout difficult times your intuition can guide you in alignment with that Higher Power to assist you in moving through the issue with a sense of ease.

Releasing all your problems, worries and concerns to your Higher Mind for this to take place, involves the following steps:  Read More

How to Heal Your Mind

The spiritual text A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is a three part book containing a text, a workbook and a manual for teachers. The workbook is a 365 day mind training programme based on Universal spiritual truths and it is said to be the channelled teachings of Jesus. Although written in Christian language, I sense it is both Buddhist and Taoist in its teachings and through working with it you obtain a very different perspective on life. The main focus of ACIM is on the re-training of the workings of our minds through forgiveness and the recognition of the profound effect that has on our lives and the lives of those around us. Read More

A Journey: In Patience and Faith

Sometimes we just do not know when we are about to enter a massive journey in faith and trust. Often a clue is that we are moving through some sort of change, for with any change, there is always a degree of uncertainty and a possibility that things may not go as expected. I think this if often why we resist change because one of our basic human needs is for certainty and yet we all have to be able to live with varying degrees of uncertainty in our lives. In fact too much certainty can get boring. Read More

Rejection is Not What it Seems

We have all experienced the pain of being rejected: we didn’t get the job that we had hoped for, we didn’t get the part we wanted, someone who we care about alienates us and the one we love doesn’t want us. Whatever the cause, it is not a palatable emotion to deal with and if we are not very careful it can lead us into feelings of being unloved, unwanted and unworthy. And yet in truth, everything that is meant for you will not go by you and we have to know that if we didn’t get the situation or person we wanted, it is because there is someone and something better coming our way. But, it is one thing knowing that and it is another thing dealing with the emotions that come up when we feel rejected and hurt. Read More

Taking the Easy Route

Yesterday, I went for a wonderful complementary Spa day with my good friend Chantal Cooke. We were very excited about this day as we had not only a day of relaxation and chatting to look forward to, but also free drinks and lunch, free massages and 40 minutes in their dimly lit flotation pool with its gentle current to move you slowly around the pool while you rest on the warm salty water (my personal favourite thing!). Read More

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