Sometimes we just do not know when we are about to enter a massive journey in faith and trust. Often a clue is that we are moving through some sort of change, for with any change, there is always a degree of uncertainty and a possibility that things may not go as expected. I think this if often why we resist change because one of our basic human needs is for certainty and yet we all have to be able to live with varying degrees of uncertainty in our lives. In fact too much certainty can get boring. Read More
Category Archives: Patience
On Wednesday night, I went to the BBC Formula One team party which was held at a gorgeous gastro pub in Shere, Surrey. The evening was a mix of chatting, a lovely meal and then music played by a brilliant singer and electric guitarist called Kane and Eddie Jordan (BBC F1 commentator) on the tabla (Indian drum). The singer had put medleys of songs together, often starting off with one song, singing part of anther in the middle of it and then returning to the first song to complete the medley. Read More
Something that we have to accept about ourselves is that we all have our shadow sides. These are the parts of us that appear, often when we are under pressure, and lead us to act in ways that we then feel guilty about. They are the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that we have that we find totally unpalatable about ourselves. These are for example, the parts of us that shout at our partners, our children and at other drivers on the road that appear to “cut us up”, when we have been working all day with our clients and peers being as kind as anything. In short our shadows are the very things that we do not want other people to know about us because we have been taught from a very young age that it is not acceptable to behave in this way. Read More
Everything happens for you, not to you.
This is a quote from Byron Katie. I really admire her work helping people to move beyond their suffering by changing their thoughts and she promotes a philosophy of “loving what is” i.e. being totally accepting of and loving all that comes into your life, both good and bad. I write about this in my book Spiritual Intelligence in Business and I call it our ability to really accept the “is-ness” of every situation we find ourselves in. This is something though that can be challenging for us when we find ourselves in situations that are not to our liking, and this is what happened to me! Read More