Memento Mori: The Forgotten Truth

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” Marcus Aurelius

The summer is a time of flourishing. The darkness of winter has passed. There is still new growth, rejuvenation and rebirth everywhere. In contrast to this appetite for new beginnings, there is one salient truth which we continually overlook: that each one of us will die. Whether rich or poor, successful or unsuccessful, intelligent or unintelligent, religious or atheist, the certainty of death is there for us all. And, some people deliberately keep this awareness at the forefront of their minds. Read More

Are Your Motivations Helping You or Hindering You?

You’ve got to make a conscious choice every day to shed the old – whatever “the old” means for you. Sarah Ban Breathnach

In life, we are motivated by our values and ideals. They determine our actions in every situation. There are two types of motivations that we can follow: those driven by our personality or ego, our conditioned self, or those inspired by our unconditioned self, that higher, wiser part of our being.

If you are following the impulses of your personality, it is likely that in some areas, it is leading you into suffering. In reality, any area of your life where you are experiencing negative emotions is a sign that you are following, and acting upon, the ideals of the ego. A differentiator between these two types of impetuses is that the incentives of the ego mostly lead you into some form of action or behaviour, whereas those of the unconditioned self lead you to goals that are expressed in essence, not form. Read More

Hold On. Let Go. Which Should We Do?

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” Ann Landers

The summer break is a perfect time for reflecting on what is working in our lives, and what is not. What to hold onto, and what to let go of. Importantly, it is helpful to gain awareness of the behavioural habits, attachments to situations or people or to our unhelpful ways of thinking that are causing us suffering. And from here, let them go.

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Do you Want a Fulfiling Life?

To achieve true and lasting fulfilment in life, think, talk and live outside every box that you have ever been taught to believe in. – John P Smith

I am a great creature of habit. I like finding routines that work for me and sticking to them. I like to park in the same place when I go shopping. I want to follow the same exercise routine. I tend to order similar food each week in my online order. These practices give me a sense of familiarity and allow me to feel I have some control over myself and my life Read More

How to Set Goals That You Will Achieve

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Ziglar

Reflection is invaluable when you are in business. And it is always worth reviewing the following questions: What do we want to achieve? Who do we want to be? What do we need to learn? Improve? Take to the next level? Do we keep these aims in practical reality or do we ‘dream big’ in the hopes that magic and the law of attraction will be on our side?

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Make Listening, not Hearing, Your Intention

“The word ‘listen’ contains the same letters as the word ‘silent’.” Alfred Brendell

We are a nation of poor listeners. Most of us only partially listen when others are expressing themselves. Our minds wander onto our preoccupations. We feign interest. We wish the person would get to the point. Mostly, we just mechanically hear people.

Hearing is the automatic process of taking in sound waves through the outer ear, converting those waves into electrical impulses and then transmitting them into the brain. Assuming your ears are functioning well, the moment those signals reach the brain is when listening starts. Read More

It’s Not your Job to Like Me: It’s Mine

It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine. Byron Katie
One of the most significant blocks to our inherent sense of esteem and worth is the mental dialogue we have in our heads. This dialogue can erode our ability to perform effectively, reduce our resilience to stress, negate our ability to deal with challenging situations and lower our levels of optimism. Over time, it can move us towards depression, overwhelm and resignation.

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Attention: You Have a Hoover in your Brain

Attention works much like a muscle—use it poorly and it can wither; work it well and it grows.” Daniel Goleman

Attention, from the Latin word ‘attendere’ means to ‘give heed to’, ‘to stretch towards’, as if we are reaching our minds towards something. Think about this: whatever you pay attention to, both good and bad, you are stretching your mind towards.
Neuroscience supports this, highlighting that our minds act like a hoover, hoovering in whatever we spend time focusing upon. Drawing our chosen awareness into our neural pathways. Given this, being very vigilant about the placement of our perception is paramount.

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Resilience: How to Embrace Failure

“Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.” Nelson Mandela

The greatest challenge in life is picking yourself up from a downturn in life’s fortunes. Moreover, from there, either persisting in your chosen direction or changing tack entirely and doing something different. Unfortunately, we have been taught repeatedly in our formative years that ‘failure is not an option’, it is a ‘bad thing’ that proves our inadequacies and shows us up as a ‘loser’. It must be avoided at all costs. As a result, we allow failure of any kind to make us feel worthlessness, despairing and bitter. It erodes our confidence and leaves us with a deep sense of being a victim of life’s circumstances. This can lead to anxiety, resentment, depression and addictive tendencies which are hard to move beyond. Read More

Emotions: Express, Suppress or Master them?

“Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.” Cathy Burnham Martin

 

People’s emotions are running a mock these days. We witness it daily with news stories of violent killings, sexual abuse and terrorist atrocities. On our roads, we see drivers filled with rage towards other road users. On social media, we read the outright condemnation of individuals in the comments section of a post. Also, in the workplace, we observe outbursts from coworkers as just something to tolerate as ‘collateral damage’. Read More

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