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Do you Want a Fulfiling Life?

To achieve true and lasting fulfilment in life, think, talk and live outside every box that you have ever been taught to believe in. – John P Smith

I am a great creature of habit. I like finding routines that work for me and sticking to them. I like to park in the same place when I go shopping. I want to follow the same exercise routine. I tend to order similar food each week in my online order. These practices give me a sense of familiarity and allow me to feel I have some control over myself and my life Read More

How to Set Goals That You Will Achieve

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Ziglar

Reflection is invaluable when you are in business. And it is always worth reviewing the following questions: What do we want to achieve? Who do we want to be? What do we need to learn? Improve? Take to the next level? Do we keep these aims in practical reality or do we ‘dream big’ in the hopes that magic and the law of attraction will be on our side?

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Make Listening, not Hearing, Your Intention

“The word ‘listen’ contains the same letters as the word ‘silent’.” Alfred Brendell

We are a nation of poor listeners. Most of us only partially listen when others are expressing themselves. Our minds wander onto our preoccupations. We feign interest. We wish the person would get to the point. Mostly, we just mechanically hear people.

Hearing is the automatic process of taking in sound waves through the outer ear, converting those waves into electrical impulses and then transmitting them into the brain. Assuming your ears are functioning well, the moment those signals reach the brain is when listening starts. Read More

It’s Not your Job to Like Me: It’s Mine

It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine. Byron Katie
One of the most significant blocks to our inherent sense of esteem and worth is the mental dialogue we have in our heads. This dialogue can erode our ability to perform effectively, reduce our resilience to stress, negate our ability to deal with challenging situations and lower our levels of optimism. Over time, it can move us towards depression, overwhelm and resignation.

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Attention: You Have a Hoover in your Brain

Attention works much like a muscle—use it poorly and it can wither; work it well and it grows.” Daniel Goleman

Attention, from the Latin word ‘attendere’ means to ‘give heed to’, ‘to stretch towards’, as if we are reaching our minds towards something. Think about this: whatever you pay attention to, both good and bad, you are stretching your mind towards.
Neuroscience supports this, highlighting that our minds act like a hoover, hoovering in whatever we spend time focusing upon. Drawing our chosen awareness into our neural pathways. Given this, being very vigilant about the placement of our perception is paramount.

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Resilience: How to Embrace Failure

“Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.” Nelson Mandela

The greatest challenge in life is picking yourself up from a downturn in life’s fortunes. Moreover, from there, either persisting in your chosen direction or changing tack entirely and doing something different. Unfortunately, we have been taught repeatedly in our formative years that ‘failure is not an option’, it is a ‘bad thing’ that proves our inadequacies and shows us up as a ‘loser’. It must be avoided at all costs. As a result, we allow failure of any kind to make us feel worthlessness, despairing and bitter. It erodes our confidence and leaves us with a deep sense of being a victim of life’s circumstances. This can lead to anxiety, resentment, depression and addictive tendencies which are hard to move beyond. Read More

Emotions: Express, Suppress or Master them?

“Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.” Cathy Burnham Martin

 

People’s emotions are running a mock these days. We witness it daily with news stories of violent killings, sexual abuse and terrorist atrocities. On our roads, we see drivers filled with rage towards other road users. On social media, we read the outright condemnation of individuals in the comments section of a post. Also, in the workplace, we observe outbursts from coworkers as just something to tolerate as ‘collateral damage’. Read More

Are you Just ‘Default Moding’?

I woke up this morning feeling a mixture of negative emotions: stress from the pressures of business; anxious to get a good deal on some flights I wanted to book; sad about the loss of a rescue dog we had had living with us and concerned about some uncomfortable calls I had to make that day. I could see myself caught up in these different emotions, unable to separate myself from their grip.

 

I was in what neuroscientists call the ‘Default Mode Network’. This is the place our brains naturally go to when they are in idle. When we are not specifically focused on, or involved with, a task. It is that mental chatter that we engage in when we are seemingly doing nothing. Through the use of brain imaging scanners, scientists can see this neural activity lights up a network of centres in the brain and draws considerably on our oxygenated blood.

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