Do you Want a Fulfiling Life?

To achieve true and lasting fulfilment in life, think, talk and live outside every box that you have ever been taught to believe in. – John P Smith

I am a great creature of habit. I like finding routines that work for me and sticking to them. I like to park in the same place when I go shopping. I want to follow the same exercise routine. I tend to order similar food each week in my online order. These practices give me a sense of familiarity and allow me to feel I have some control over myself and my life Read More

How to Set Goals That You Will Achieve

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Ziglar

Reflection is invaluable when you are in business. And it is always worth reviewing the following questions: What do we want to achieve? Who do we want to be? What do we need to learn? Improve? Take to the next level? Do we keep these aims in practical reality or do we ‘dream big’ in the hopes that magic and the law of attraction will be on our side?

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Make Listening, not Hearing, Your Intention

“The word ‘listen’ contains the same letters as the word ‘silent’.” Alfred Brendell

We are a nation of poor listeners. Most of us only partially listen when others are expressing themselves. Our minds wander onto our preoccupations. We feign interest. We wish the person would get to the point. Mostly, we just mechanically hear people.

Hearing is the automatic process of taking in sound waves through the outer ear, converting those waves into electrical impulses and then transmitting them into the brain. Assuming your ears are functioning well, the moment those signals reach the brain is when listening starts. Read More

It’s Not your Job to Like Me: It’s Mine

It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine. Byron Katie
One of the most significant blocks to our inherent sense of esteem and worth is the mental dialogue we have in our heads. This dialogue can erode our ability to perform effectively, reduce our resilience to stress, negate our ability to deal with challenging situations and lower our levels of optimism. Over time, it can move us towards depression, overwhelm and resignation.

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Attention: You Have a Hoover in your Brain

Attention works much like a muscle—use it poorly and it can wither; work it well and it grows.” Daniel Goleman

Attention, from the Latin word ‘attendere’ means to ‘give heed to’, ‘to stretch towards’, as if we are reaching our minds towards something. Think about this: whatever you pay attention to, both good and bad, you are stretching your mind towards.
Neuroscience supports this, highlighting that our minds act like a hoover, hoovering in whatever we spend time focusing upon. Drawing our chosen awareness into our neural pathways. Given this, being very vigilant about the placement of our perception is paramount.

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Resilience: How to Embrace Failure

“Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.” Nelson Mandela

The greatest challenge in life is picking yourself up from a downturn in life’s fortunes. Moreover, from there, either persisting in your chosen direction or changing tack entirely and doing something different. Unfortunately, we have been taught repeatedly in our formative years that ‘failure is not an option’, it is a ‘bad thing’ that proves our inadequacies and shows us up as a ‘loser’. It must be avoided at all costs. As a result, we allow failure of any kind to make us feel worthlessness, despairing and bitter. It erodes our confidence and leaves us with a deep sense of being a victim of life’s circumstances. This can lead to anxiety, resentment, depression and addictive tendencies which are hard to move beyond. Read More

Are you Just ‘Default Moding’?

I woke up this morning feeling a mixture of negative emotions: stress from the pressures of business; anxious to get a good deal on some flights I wanted to book; sad about the loss of a rescue dog we had had living with us and concerned about some uncomfortable calls I had to make that day. I could see myself caught up in these different emotions, unable to separate myself from their grip.

 

I was in what neuroscientists call the ‘Default Mode Network’. This is the place our brains naturally go to when they are in idle. When we are not specifically focused on, or involved with, a task. It is that mental chatter that we engage in when we are seemingly doing nothing. Through the use of brain imaging scanners, scientists can see this neural activity lights up a network of centres in the brain and draws considerably on our oxygenated blood.

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Is Your Dopamine Flowing Plentifully?

With our amazing hot weather in the UK at the moment, we just want to be outside, enjoying the summer sun. Although we would love the pace of life to slow in the heat, this deceleration does not seem to happen: Emails come pinging in. The phone rings. People interrupt with their urgent matters that need our attention. And the ‘to do’ list still seems as long.
Added to this is our own internal pressures. That voice telling us we ‘must do that’ and ‘should do that’ for example “I must get this done today or my client will be disappointed” or “I should go for that run now or I will never get fit’. We have sub-personalities within us driving us to succeed, to look good, to keep the peace, to fit in, to seek approval and their demanding voices crack the whip to keep us going at all times.

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Inner listening

How Can Meditation Help us To Be More Successful in Business? In Relationships? In Life?

Meditation, or stilling and focusing the mind, has many benefits for our physical and mental health. It reverses the physiological effects of stress and allows us to feel calmer, centred and relaxed. In our busy lives, full of technological overload, all this is very helpful to our long-term well-being.

In all aspects of life, and especially in business, we also need to be able to think clearly, even under stress, and make quick, effective decisions. We need to have insight and, at times, strategic foresight. We require the relationship skills to be both a team player and a visionary leader of both ourselves, and others. And we need the interaction capabilities to be able to get along with, and communicate to, many different types of people. So how can meditation help with all of these essential skills for life? Read More

To Give or Not To Give? Part Two: How Altruism Can Be Used for our Personal Growth

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Mahatma Gandh

Altruism – the giving to others without seeking anything in return – is definitely a means of finding ourselves and an opportunity to move beyond our egocentric actions and reactions. Many spiritual traditions echo this philosophy. In fact, having a generous nature is woven into the very core of our DNA. It is a natural thing for us to do. It brings many rewards and yet, should be done from a giving heart rather than the desire purely to receive those rewards.

Our hunter gatherer ancestors knew that altruism within the tribe promoted the passing on of genes. It also supported their reputation amongst other tribe members as it was important to be seen to be sharing the spoils of one’s labours and giving back what they themselves had received: if you give me some special roots to eat today, I must be seen to give you some special roots to eat tomorrow so I appear benevolent in the eyes of others. Since those early days, our willingness to help others has evolved considerably and we are now willing to help those far outside our tribe and who we do not even know. Read More

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