Hold On. Let Go. Which Should We Do?

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” Ann Landers

The summer break is a perfect time for reflecting on what is working in our lives, and what is not. What to hold onto, and what to let go of. Importantly, it is helpful to gain awareness of the behavioural habits, attachments to situations or people or to our unhelpful ways of thinking that are causing us suffering. And from here, let them go.

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Turning Poison into Medicine: How to Move Through Challenges… and Become Happier

 

The idea of ‘turning poison into medicine’ comes from a form of Buddhism called Nichiren Buddhism. This is a sect of Japanese Buddhism based on the teachings of its founder Nichiren in the 13th century. One of the key tenets of this approach is that our suffering is not caused by our attachment to our desires, as traditional Buddhism teaches. It purports, instead, that our suffering is caused by our belief that we lack the personal power to overcome the challenges that confront us. That ultimately, we are powerless in the face of adversity. And this can lead us to states of severe anxiety and depression where we are consumed by feelings of powerlessness, worry and despair. Read More

A night in the hospital, yet …

Everything happens for you, not to you.

This is a quote from Byron Katie. I really admire her work helping people to move beyond their suffering by changing their thoughts and she promotes a philosophy of “loving what is” i.e. being totally accepting of and loving all that comes into your life, both good and bad. I write about this in my book Spiritual Intelligence in Business and I call it our ability to really accept the “is-ness” of every situation we find ourselves in. This is something though that can be challenging for us when we find ourselves in situations that are not to our liking, and this is what happened to me! Read More

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